I know people who are horrendously scared to fail, to the point where they are constantly anxious, over-analysing everything they do, perpetually checking themselves against their goal markers and panicking when they’re even slightly falling short.
In my mind, these people are fooling no one but themselves.
Failure is a key part of life. Looking back on my last 12 months (pretty much exactly to the day), I can see all my major failings and mistakes that I made. Going into every decision that lead to an error, I did all the analysing and preparation that I could – I stressed, double-checked, researched, and still walked into a pitfall.
Looking back, I know that some mistakes were on my head, some were other people’s responsibility. But what they all have in common is I made damn sure that I learned from every single one.
My father once told me (love how pompous that sounds), ‘Never learn from your mistakes, learn from other peoples.’ And that’s all well and good until you yourself make a mistake. The second you realise that you’ve made a minor, or even colossal boo-boo you must start looking at where it came from and what you can learn from it.
I’ve known people and still know people who make the same mistakes time after time, month in and month out, because they don’t have that ability to self-analyse – or they’re of the belief that ‘try, try, try again’ without changing anything will mean you get that break eventually. Hint: No.
Failing is human. We all do it, some more than others, but if you’re not learning from it you render the whole experience pointless.